Sunday, September 10, 2006

I am Sam

I realised it's been a long time since I last blogged with a title for my entry.

Anyway, I guess many will think that I'm mad to actually spent 2 hrs plus last night watching a movie on Channel 5 instead of facing the books and notes and wad nots. But I can tell u I dun regret it. It's a nice movie.

Sam Dawson has the mental capacity of a 7-year-old. He works at a Starbucks and is obsessed with the Beatles. He has a daughter with a homeless woman; she abandons them as soon as they leave the hospital. He names his daughter Lucy Diamond (after the Beatles song), and raises her. But as she reaches age 7 herself, Sam's limitations start to become a problem at school; she's intentionally holding back to avoid looking smarter than him. The authorities take her away, and Sam shames high-priced lawyer Rita Harrison into taking his case pro bono. In the process, he teaches her a great deal about love, and whether it's really all you need.

It seems all like a simple plot, with a simple storyline. But it teaches and tells us a great deal.

One's capacity of love is not measured by one's mental capacity. The IQ = EQ equation doesn't apply at all. We're not talking abt whether the father is able to teach his daughter math or not, but whether he really loves her and is able to give everything up for her.

Sam Dawson may be mentally impaired. He's innocent, and some may say that he's ignorant, yet he knows more abt love than anyone does. When he sees ppl cry, he couldn't bear their sorrows and sobs. He may not know how to console them, but he knows that action speaks louder than words. He will give them his warmest hugs and kisses, while whispering "don't cry... don't cry" into their ears.

Sometimes when a person is sad, all he/she needs may not be ur understanding, but ur ability to console them, to make them feel comfortable. And most of e times, just physical contact is enough. Perhaps that's why Rogue in X-men III went for the injection which takes away her powers.

When his daughter was taken away from him and they went into court, the authorities question his daughter, a bright-eyed and pretty girl with high intellectual capacity. They asked if she's satisfied with wad her father is able to give, the brave 7 yr old looked into the video cam and said in a serene and sincere tone.

"All I need is love."

In another room where her father's watching, he cried.

It was such a touching scene.

When he was under probation and his daughter was sent to a foster home, he moved closer to where his daughter is living so that he is able to see her everyday while walking the dogs (it's a kind of errand he does to supplement his income so that he has more financial independence). Every single night, without fail, his daughter with her bunny soft toy, takes the risk of climbing down from the second floor where her "bedroom" is and walks all alone in the dark to her father's house. And everyday without fail, her father takes her back to the foster home, lest the foster parents worry abt her whereabouts and safety.

There are many other touching scenes as well, but well to encourage u ppl all there to watch, i shan't elaborate.

I have a friend who's not very close to her parents. She is an independent girl. And I'm definitely not saying that it's a bad thing. But precisely because she's indepedent, she doesn't really need her parents. Her parents paid a high price by training her to gain independence--- their relationship with her. She said that she doesn't hug her mummy and feels weird if she does so or when her mummy hugs her. But what I would like to say is, if u can easily hug ur friends, i dun see why u can't do the same to ur mummy or ur daddy for that case. Being independent doesn't mean that u dun acknowledge ur parents and show ur love for them. U need to show that u do appreciate everything they do for u. Even Sam Dawson knows how to express his love, why can't u?

Step out of this complicated world of colours, and step into the world of Sam Dawson. You'll see how pure and simple his world is. A simple man in a complicated world. It's definite that he encounters a lot of troubles and problems, but he manages to touch ppl out there with his way, and ultimately gets back his daughter and gains help from others in e process of raising his daughter.

The foster mother said that she thought that she'll be able to give the girl the kind of love that she'll nv be able to get from her father, but she realised that if she said that she'll be lying. (And it's wrong to lie, as wad Sam Dawson emphasized throughout the movie.)

An important and significant portion of the girl's life will be lost if she's taken away from her father, who loves her so dearly and truly.

Because that's the kind of love where u wouldn't find it elsewhere.

But from them, ur parents.

And in this entire life, u have only a pair of parents.

And the thing is that apart from ur childhood yrs, u wouldn't be able to spend much time with them coz of school and work. And that left u with very little time to interact with them, before they leave.

I know this is a very old and frequently used quote, but it holds true values and it's easily forgotten. Plus, it's really easier said than done.

Don't take things for granted. Learn to treasure.
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